Problems with XFCE deskbar disappearring XUBUNTU 8.10

[Dagenais Georges]

Hi, 

I installed Xubuntu 8.10 this weekend (2 times) and after a few tests
and my kids fiddling around with it, I noticed that my user env (admin)
has lost its XFCE deskbars (top and bottom).
Also, I made a mistake and checked the automatic login using my user
upon initial config. Now I would rather have every one login at startup.


My problems are : I cannot find the way to re-instate my deskbars and
undo the automatic login so that the user passw screen appears on boot
up. 

I have admin rights to the box but I don't have knowledge of the root
password; i.e.  I can't delete my user and try the fix the problem
manually.

Can anybody help? I already installed the software twice (about 6hrs
with updates each time) and would rather not go thru that again anytime
soon. 

Thanks

Georges Dagenais

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