Gvim window activated by mutt doesn't gain focus

[Paulo Marcel Coelho Aragao]

Hi,

I use gvim to edit mutt mails by setting editor="gvim --remote-wait", so that  
a new buffer is created in currently running gvim when I ask to compose a mail 
in mutt. It works alright but the gvim window doesn't gain focus. It comes to 
the foreground but the focus remains with the mutt window. The window manager 
settings have an option to give focus to newly created windows, which is not 
this case, since no window is created, and another to raise a window when it 
receives focus, which is precisely the inverse of what I need: to gain focus 
when it's raised.  I vaguely remember that this worked as I intended with KDE, 
because I don't recall being bothered by the lack of focus nor to have tweaked 
any window manager settings, so it seems to be a feasible window manager 
feature.

Could anybody give me a hint on how to configure xfce's window manager to 
accomplish this ?

Thanks
Paulo